Been a while since I blogged. A
lot has been going on. I thought clearing campus was my gateway to freedom,
success and happiness but no one told me I would spend sleepless nights trying
to find myself a financial position in a firm in Nairobi. My life was very well
planned out in theory…I would come to campus, score A’s in all my exams. I
thought that after school I would directly secure a job as a financial
consultant. I didn’t think about the interim. I am stuck in a grey area. I
don’t know if I was building castles in the air all this time. Should I continue
to dream more? I believe I am made for bigger and better.
Women in this country are making
huge strides. Just recently Total Kenya appointed a woman C.E.O. This is a huge
step given that women are not represented in the boards of many companies
listed in the Nairobi Stock Exchange. We are in an age where the constitution
favours women and opts for one third representation in these top positions in
both the political and corporate arena. This is a major step that Kenyans are
taking.
Women are getting emancipated
and people are learning to let go of the notion that a woman’s place is in the
kitchen. A woman can do any job that a man can do probably even better. Just
recently I spoke with Wangui who is a conductor of the P.S.V’s (public Service
Vehicles) along the Thika Superhighway. I admired her enthusiasm and
determination as she went about shouting to the passengers to board the P.S.V.
She said, “At first it was
challenging since this is a job reserved for the men since they are hardy and
they can easily usher people into the vehicle by shouting. Later when I got the
hang of it, people accepted and even commended me for my guts. I love my job
since it brings food to the table. Women are tough in this day and age”.
Here we see a woman who has
ignored all the stereotype and spiteful comments and moved out of her comfort
zone. So this is an industry infested by male sharks, so what? I will go out
there, pioneer a path for those women who are second guessing themselves and
wondering if they are good enough. Take a good look around you. Women are no
longer confined in the proverbial ‘kitchen walls’. They are too stifling. They
are too commonplace. We only have one life to live and if we let people define how
we should live it we did not LIVE.
There is so much in this world
that a woman can do and still take care of her kids and family. Women miss out
on lobbying for top positions because most of these positions are discussed
over bars and golf courses. A woman with a family cannot be seen attending
these events since she has to make dinner, clean up and take care of her
children. Women miss out on these positions and only have their papers (qualifications)
and determination to help them climb the corporate ladder.
Recently, we had an argument
with some of my friends that if a woman and a man who are equally qualified
walk into an interview room the woman will get the job( especially if she is in
a short skirt). Well, while that might be partly true I beg to differ .It is
not always that a woman will bag a certain job simply because she is a woman. That
is a debate for another day.
I am still trying to find my
niche and purpose in these streets. We all have that little voice in our head
that tells us that we can do great things. If only we could let go of fear and
limitations that the world has set for us. The hardest time in life is when you
have nothing but dreams. Your hands are empty. The hardest thing is to attempt
to live the dreams when the voices in your head battle with the will to live
and burgeon .It is harder when you are a woman. It is harder when you don’t
know where to start or when you have no skill, networks or resources.
Think about the prisoner who is
digging himself out of the prison walls. Digging through stone walls day by
day. It all started with a thought, a dream, and a step. Eventually it all
works out and the sooner you start, the sooner you LIVE YOUR DREAM.
